It is commonly believed that irreplaceable people do not happen. But life experience proves otherwise. We often do not have enough friends that we part with, and to find them a replacement does not work, and the fault is the incompatibility of their characters, interests and temperaments. So how to attract the right people in their lives?
The answer to this question is complicated. One way or another, we are often confronted with misunderstanding, we have to prove that we are much better than we seem to others. But there are simple rules that can help make a difference. What are they?
Be open and honest.
And also – be able to listen and hear, without judging or criticizing anyone. You can give an example of students who get a lot of comments when doing their college essay. There are as many people as there are opinions, so by expressing your disagreement with their opinions and getting into arguments, you will move into opposition to them. That way you will never find allies, let alone new friends.
If a person has a point of view that opposes you on some issue it doesn’t mean he is a bad person and can’t be your partner and come to your aid in time of need.
Taking part in a discussion about someone in their absence will not do you credit. Gossip will ruin your reputation, but not the reputation of the person being discussed. People around you are eager to criticize the actions and personal lives of others, even those they don’t know well enough to label. If you are not burning desire to become a party to a possible conflict in the future, avoid gossip and gossipers.
Don’t be outspoken.
We all have problems, we all go through difficult situations from time to time, but this does not mean that we should complain to the whole world. Speaking about the problems, you thus appear weak in the eyes of your interlocutors. Especially not recommended to make publicly available the problems associated with personal life. By complaining about his wife, husband and other relatives, you humiliate not only them but also yourself.
Being the center of attention is nice. But in order to become the soul of the company, you should not make titanic efforts, be original or pretend to be someone you are not. Behave naturally, do not forget the rules of decorum. This model of behavior will be liked more than self-promotion. People don’t like it when someone tries to appear better and higher than them, much less start bragging about their accomplishments and wealth.
If something is bothering you, don’t show your face. Keep yourself in control, because nervousness is discouraging. Such a state can be triggered by bad things and lead to undesirable consequences. Those around you understand this very well. So first calm down, and then continue to communicate.
Listening to these recommendations, you can easily make contact with people and make new friends and partners. All these rules will help you not to lack of communication and even arrange a personal life, as they also work well in communicating with the opposite sex.